It is never easy to end a relationship, and it can be even harder to work with your former spouse to make that happen. However, if you can follow a certain series of steps, you can settle the divorce in a reasonable and civil manner.
Put Your Emotions Aside
Thinking of your divorce as a business arrangement may help you keep your emotions in check. Instead of trying to get everything, you will strive to get what is possible and end the settlement process as soon as possible to keep costs down.
Think About Your Kids
Settling your case in a civil manner can help preserve relationships between the parents and preserve relationships with your kids. You will feel less inclined to fight around your kids while showing them how adults truly settle their differences.
Hire an Attorney
You shouldn’t try to handle your case by yourself as there are many nuances that can trip you up. Instead, hire an attorney who knows the law and can make it easier to get what you are entitled to. This is another step that you can take to settle the case in a timely manner because you know what to go for and what to concede.
Mediation is a process that puts you and your spouse in the same room together with the goal of simply talking out your differences. If you come up with an agreement, it can be included in a binding document. Mediation may be great for issues that you and your spouse pretty much agree on and just need some prodding to put those feelings into words.
Know What You Need
The best way to settle a case is to know what you need, ask for it and be happy that you get it. For instance, if you need spousal support or the home to raise your child, ask for it and don’t back off. This helps focus negotiations and reduces the odds that you squabble about side issues that don’t matter.
Don’t Play Games
If you aren’t going to negotiate in good faith, it may be best to just go to court and let a judge make a ruling. The more you hold up the process, the more it costs and the less likely you are to get what you want or need from your spouse.
Getting a divorce doesn’t have to be a torturous process for yourself or your spouse. As long as you know what you need, are willing to communicate and have good representation, you can end your marriage and start the process of moving on with your life.